Why do women give me grief for being 42 and never married?
Mike asked:
After all, it’s the women who cheated on me and committed unprovoked acts of domestic violence, which is why I’m still single.
Instead of making fun of me, women should show me respect for what I’ve survived. Why don’t they do that? Also, why is it that when a woman is 42 and never married, she is celebrated as “independent”?
26. June 2009 at 10:39 am :
I am not so sure I would consider a woman that is 42 and not married “independent”. Why do you care what anybody thinks anyway??
27. June 2009 at 2:58 am :
Because you have escaped their clutches. They can’t stand having a man outside of their control. They want everyone outside of their control destroyed, penniless and hopeless.
Not that marriage is bad, but good wives are almost impossible to find.
Carry on and remember your brothers!
27. June 2009 at 9:23 pm :
Women get a lot of flack for being being 42 and unmarried as well. Other women often are rude to them or even gossip that they are unmarried due to looks, personality, etc. That type of treatment can be especially hurtful. I think your last sentence may just come from the fact that you aren’t a women so you haven’t dealt with it.
I’m only 25, and I don’t think a week even goes by without a couple of people asking me at some point why I’m not married or don’t have a boyfriend. All single people get a lot of grief about being single the older they get. I think this just has to do with going against the norm and not being married (or at least having prospects) by 25.
Some people may be unhappy in their relationships and are jealous that you are still single. Others may love being married and feel sorry for you because you haven’t found anybody yet. Then, they may bother you about it because they want you to be happy as well.
I just try not to let it bother me, and my answer is generally, “I haven’t found the right person yet.” That is the truth, at least for me, and if I never get married, then I guess that I never found the right person. I would rather be alone the rest of my life than in a bad relationship.
Also, I’m sorry you have had bad experiences with women, but I also hope this is not the only reason why you haven’t gotten married. I’m sure people would respect you for what you “survived” if they knew about it, but don’t let your past experiences ruin your view of marriage and women. Stay single if that is what you want to do, but don’t let other bad experiences or people’s influence keep you from what could possibly be a good thing either.
29. June 2009 at 1:05 am :
Deep down inside if you can admit that you haven’t been married it shows that you have discretion, which many women don’t have, and the women who you feel are making fun of you are just trying to hide something.
Women will settle for little or nothing just to say that they have a husband, but they will live a happiness lie and pass judgment on all around them that have relationship problems.
I don’t really agree with the second part of your question. Most women in that age group that are single are doing everything in their power to land the ONE that they plan to die with’ and most are looking not too far from the high schools.
30. June 2009 at 12:28 pm :
The question is why are you seeking out this type of personality. Do you think you are deserving of abuse, or was you mother abusive also.
If you are 42, and still dealing with this, I would suggest therapy. Remember we create our own reality. If the reality you have created is a reality you are uncomfortable with you must see the new reality you want, and take the steps to make that happen.
3. July 2009 at 6:56 pm :
> Instead of making fun of me, women should show me respect for what I’ve survived. < And they would know this how? Do you hand out a CV of your life to these women who ALL seem to punish you!
Who do women ‘give you grief for never having married and being 42′?
Are these women to ‘Know’ empirically that in your life ‘that all women’ (plurally) have all cheated on you’?
Why do they do this? What causes this to happen? Why do all these women Give YOU such grief?
I’m not blaming you, by the way, nor am I unsympathetic, I’m just trying to raise these issues for you to maybe look at afresh …from the perspective I’m reading them from.
I wish you the best of luck with your particular war.
Sash.
4. July 2009 at 8:50 pm :
Because if she’s not celebrated as independent…she’s pi ssed on for being a 42 year old loser who badly needs a makeover and throw out her clothes from the 80’s.
People who don’t KNOW the women might see her as independent.
Friends of that lady would make fun of her like people do with any man.