7 comments to “How can I help my mom with her grief about my father’s passing?”

1. #1

   x _ m i l l y _ x wrote:
   26. June 2009 at 7:49 am :

   Maybe seeing a councellor

2. #2

   Stephanie S wrote:
   27. June 2009 at 5:34 pm :

   She has to go through it on her own. Just hug her, love her and listen to her. Don’t offer any advice. If she is still struggling after a year or so and can’t function with day to day life then she may need to see a therapist.

3. #3

   Krissy wrote:
   30. June 2009 at 6:42 am :

   Well, having someone you treasure and love being taken from you is a big loss. Having breakdowns is natural. its not weakness, how would you feel if the person you would give your life to, was taken from you. Try to be supportive. Shes ur mother and deserves no less than love and understanding. Give her cups of tea, do little things. Try to take her out to have fun. I bet shes feeling very empty inside. So tell her that she isnt weak, that you all loved your father and would want her to be happy.

4. #4

   Dylan T wrote:
   2. July 2009 at 6:46 pm :

   tell her she’s not weak b/c that is a really hard thing to loose someone that you have lived with for a long time. and tell her to let it all out b/c if she don’t it will hurt her more.

5. #5

   Sunbird wrote:
   6. July 2009 at 5:37 am :

   I have been through the same thing. Grief has to run its course and for some it takes longer than others and some never stop grieving. What you have to do is show her you love her and be with her as much as you can. Go out to eat, shopping or a movie with her as often as you can. Try to stir her interests to something new and different to gradually help her. She needs to cry at times in order to release the frustration and tension and maybe it will help her. Good luck and I am sorry about your dad.

6. #6

   I luv my kids wrote:
   9. July 2009 at 3:05 am :

   I lost my son 4 years ago. The pain is still there. Not a moment goes by that I don’t think of him. Yes there will be difficult times for her. But there will also be times where she will remember the fun times too.
   I cannot say that time heals. As I said, it has been four years and it is still difficult for me. But they say it does get easier.
   Does your mom go to church ? Is there a pastor or minister she can speak with? Would she be willing to go to group meetings? I know our local hospitals have grief counseling meetings once a month for free. Also a good place to check is Hospice. They will offer free appointments for a year after the loss and then they go on a sliding scale after the year.
   See if she will check into any of these ideas. And just being there for her will be a big help. I know I feel better when my kids are with me.

7. #7

   dmbarry777 wrote:
   11. July 2009 at 12:49 am :

   Just try to have an ear to hear and a shoulder to lean on. Her emotions will vary as she processes the events that happened surrending your father’s passing.

   Its called grief and some emotions which accompany grief are shock, anger, denial, blame, and regret.

   Try to encourage her to talk it out, and cry. Crying helps relieve what has been held back during the funeral and all. Keep encouraging her and telling her she is not being weak.

   By the way you seem to be handling this very well. Your mom will appreciate you being there I am sure, but you too need to talk it out if you have thoughts and cry it out if your trying to hold it back.

   These are the times that the family needs each other the most. (and good friends too)